Hi
@Offset Entity . I understand the problem and have tried different ways of dealing with it as my level of needs has increased.
My household consists of 2 people - self and daughter, both with ME, both housebound and mostly bed bound, so we need quite a lot of help to keep functioning.
I employ a range of people to do different things. Currently this consists of -
Gardener - 2 hours once a fortnight - found via a friend
Cleaner - 2 hours once a week - employed through a cleaning agency
Cook housekeeper - 3 hours once a week (she is a friend who I pay mainly to cook stuff we can freeze, but she also does errands, takes us to appointments, and does washing, ironing etc).
She can't come every week but enough to do what's needed.
Personal care - 3 half hour visits a week to help me shower and dress and/or do bits of housekeeping like washing dishes or hanging up washing. Employed through a care agency.
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This comes out at an average of 7.5 hours a week, but spread over 5 days which I find less tiring than supervising someone over a full day.
I find this works better than expecting the same person to do all of these things - each is doing the thing they feel comfortable with / are trained to do. It can be difficult to find someone flexible enough to be willing to do everything and reliable enough to stick with you for long before a better job comes up. I've had many cleaners, gardeners and carers over the years - it takes a lot of the stress out if you leave it to the agency to find them, but it is more expensive.
It also means if one of them is off sick or on holiday, we're not left stranded with no help. And if there's a problem with an individual cleaner or carer, the agency will send someone different, so I don't have the awkwardness of sacking them and having to find someone else.
I realise this is not what you described as wanting, just thought a different approach might interest you or anyone else reading this thread. Good luck with finding what you want.