Emmarose47
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Hi I have 3 home helps now.
1 has been with me since pandemic. Shes not the best in terms of detail but she's good enough,kind, lives local and I like her.
The one who come and does food prep and cooking is excellent quick learner, v efficient and easy to get on with.
And then there's the 3rd one a local women also. She comes and takes the grocery delivery in packs it away and cleans the kitchen. There is nothing wrong with her work it's her personality I'm having trouble with. Right from the off (about 8 wks ago she come across as highly nervous, so subserviant and waaayayyy too polite, everything is a sorry sorry and thank u. Anytime I communicate something she needs to know about the work she becomes more anxious and apologetic.
I know it mustn't be easy for her coming to a place where the person is chronically unwell and doesn't interact much but I've always been open and honest about what I need etc.
The long and short of it is I dread her coming and hide in my lounge trying not to need the bathroom.
I want to get rid of her but how I do that I'm really not sure?
I don't want to lie but I don't want to be too unkind.
'there is nothing wrong with your work it's just I can't stand u... Isn't going to work!
I thought about' our personalities arnt a good match ' but that's pretty much a back hand way to say your defective.
I'll be advertising on the next door website again and she uses it so to say something like' I realise I can manage taking the shopping in now won't work either?
Anyone with experinece in this area I welcome ideas
My nervous system is shot away enough without someone else's heightened nervous system in the flat. Oh she also has a really loud high pitched laugh so when the delivery guy comes gee it's too much
1 has been with me since pandemic. Shes not the best in terms of detail but she's good enough,kind, lives local and I like her.
The one who come and does food prep and cooking is excellent quick learner, v efficient and easy to get on with.
And then there's the 3rd one a local women also. She comes and takes the grocery delivery in packs it away and cleans the kitchen. There is nothing wrong with her work it's her personality I'm having trouble with. Right from the off (about 8 wks ago she come across as highly nervous, so subserviant and waaayayyy too polite, everything is a sorry sorry and thank u. Anytime I communicate something she needs to know about the work she becomes more anxious and apologetic.
I know it mustn't be easy for her coming to a place where the person is chronically unwell and doesn't interact much but I've always been open and honest about what I need etc.
The long and short of it is I dread her coming and hide in my lounge trying not to need the bathroom.
I want to get rid of her but how I do that I'm really not sure?
I don't want to lie but I don't want to be too unkind.
'there is nothing wrong with your work it's just I can't stand u... Isn't going to work!
I thought about' our personalities arnt a good match ' but that's pretty much a back hand way to say your defective.
I'll be advertising on the next door website again and she uses it so to say something like' I realise I can manage taking the shopping in now won't work either?
Anyone with experinece in this area I welcome ideas
My nervous system is shot away enough without someone else's heightened nervous system in the flat. Oh she also has a really loud high pitched laugh so when the delivery guy comes gee it's too much